The 6 Things That Destroy a Marriage Marriage in Islam is about trust, affection and support. Well, both of you must treat each other nicely. It is always a two-sided bond. Here are 6 Things That Can Destroy Your Marriage: 1 Not being sensitive or insightful of your husband’s preference. Fixing your relationship should start by fixing yourself first, especially your relationship with Allah. 2 Telling your husband what he should be doing or should do all the time. Nobody wants to be told what to do. It doesn’t make them want to do it more. They usually interpreted it as criticism. Tell it to him in a sincere and loving way without using sarcasm. 3 How we say things makes the difference. We have to learn as women to be mindful of the words that come out of our mouths. 4 Holding grudges. Don’t let negative emotions fester because you will eventually explode and say things you might regret. If you do that it means the pain is still there and you haven’t healed from it. Forgive him and forgive yourself. Don’t forget it and just use it as a lesson for you. 5 Thinking you are right and he’s wrong. It has to be less who is right and less who is winning. Focus on what is wrong in the marriage. Your marriage could be worse but it could be better, there’s so much room for improvement. 6 Being negative. Thinking and feeling that your marriage won’t work is extremely bad. Allah SWT will help us if we increase our gratitude towards him and towards our husbands. Not being sensitive or insightful of your husband’s preference. Fixing your relationship should start by fixing yourself first, especially your relationship with Allah. All relationships have ups and downs, happy seasons and difficult seasons, agreements and disagreements. Be mature enough to step up and break the cycle, be on the same team and put each other first. Most of all, go love your person, you chose them for a reason. Checkout our FREE Class on Increasing Love & Intimacy: Marriage Boost (HERE) Apple podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/sa/podcast/mindful-muslimah-speaks/id1447820372 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/3tVDwPd7LYYwQM7gEHMprFsi=Zoc2dJkJQXuWfZqeTulT2

Top Muslim Dating Apps in The World with Pros and Cons While conventional marriage methods are well respected and appreciated in our Muslim community, it is fair to say modern methods are changing the way Muslims find spouses. With limited access due to pandemic or a busy career and life schedules, many Muslims are looking for more options. One of the most common approaches is being explored are Muslim Dating Apps. For a beginner, the world of online dating can be quite overwhelming. Many Muslims also question how permissible these apps are to use and if so, how to use them. While we will leave such decisions to the scholars, in particular, we will say that we don’t feel any particular app is the way to go if we are truly looking to the Qur’an and Sunnah for guidance on how to find the perfect spouse, our method or approach definitely doesn’t begin with apps. While they maybe part of the process, it isn’t and surely where we begin. If you are interested in how we have taught women to find a spouse for the past 20 years, you can get access to a free class HERE. We also have an entire program where we teach everything step-by-step. You can join it HERE. Even though we do not suggest that woman begin their understanding of how to properly find and spouse with apps or engage in their use without a wali, we understand that there is great interest in which ones is may best suit you. For that reason, we will share some information in this article that is merely feedback that many sisters have shared with us in regards to their experiences. (We in no way support or endorse the use of any of these apps). Salams (formerly known as Salams) – The Best In The Game? Salams is said to be the number one option for religious individuals looking for a Muslim husband and wife. Tailored just like Tinder, Salams allows people to swipe profiles anonymously. They are only matched when they both show interest. The app has received many positive reviews on Google Play and other popular online platforms. Let’s Evaluate It What’s Good About It? Safety or security is supposedly unmatchable on Salams. It only displays your first name and other details you include on your profile. In addition, you can blur out images to prevent unnecessary attention and exposure. This feature is especially eyecatching for hijabi Muslim sisters. It is easy to block any member. So, you can stop them from viewing your profile. Plus, you can avoid any form of harassment by reporting the abuse to authorities.  Salams respects its community members a lot and will never compromise on the safety and comfort of the individuals.  Profiles on the app are verified with a GPS location  and selfie. Therefore, you can be sure that every member is genuine and legit.  All your swipes are anonymous, and members will not be informed unless it’s a match! Moreover, you can choose to leave Salams behind any time of the day without hesitation. Your profile will be deleted, and all conversation records will be erased.   Why Should You Hesitate? 80% of the members are men. The female Muslim singles are limited. While females looking for a Muslim husband will be advantageous, might not be the same for other. It’s difficult to specify the family origin of your desired partner. Unfortunately, that means you have to handle the filtering yourself on your own. One significant disadvantage is that some of your decisions will be final. For example, you will not reencounter their profile when you “unmatch” someone. You have to pay to find your ideal partner. If you’re only using the free membership, take advantage of the app’s subscription plans. Muzmatch – A Tough Competitor Muzmatch is said to be a solid online dating community for Muslim culture only. However we often find many sisters on this complaint men are not looking to commit and mostly just to talk. We will say though that the app is stylish, convenient, and easy to use. The Muzmatch mobile app, created in 2015 by the UK’s company, blew up the world of online dating platforms. It is possible to sign up on Muzmatch when you are 18. The most significant part of the members is those in their twenties and thirties. Fewer users are 4050 years old. Though you can find some 55+ category users, it will hardly be a successful search result. The app team claims: It is halal, free to use, and fun, be we know that nothing is halal unless the Muslims who choose to use it keep it that way. Let’s Evaluate It What’s Good About It? Muzmatch is a legitimate app available for Android and iOS. It is accessible and usable on almost all devices and will not cause you any trouble.  Moreover, it has a pretty friendly and straightforward user interface. The design is beautiful and eyecatching. It has a calming vibe, and you will enjoy surfing through the profile when looking for a Muslim husband and wife.  Muzmatch also requires a photo verification which means the scammers are likely to stay away. Moreover, there is a stringent privacy policy, and you can make choices regarding your images. Gender distribution is pretty equal. According to statistics, 50% of users are men, while 50% are women. And it is the right balance. This way, every member has equal chances to find a match – no matter what gender you are. A notable feature of Muzmatch is its allowance of free video calls between members of a match. Hence, once you find your partner, you can double-check them through a virtual meeting. We do not advise this in any way without a wali present (Texting either for that matter) Finally, the app provides a lot of search filters free of cost, making exploration a fun journey! Why Should You Hesitate? The lack of website or desktop variation seems to

How To Find a Good Muslim Husband One of the biggest decisions we will make in our life (that will also have the greatest impact) is whom we choose to marry Just as big the decision of choosing is understanding “why” we want to marry. We may think we know, but we also have to consider our unconscious influences i. family, friends, society, social media…   Ask yourself: “What do I want to get married?”  Muslim Marriage is an element of faith, and it is a part of the Prophet Muhammad’s Sunnah. Peace and blessing be upon him.“I am seeking for someone with whom I will start a family,” you might say. After you have considered “why” you want to marry, you must also consider what type of spouse you are looking for.   Ask yourself: “What do I want in a spouse?”  Again we may be unaware of the underlying culture and societal influences that are shaping our choices. Are you looking for a guy that will please your parents (one with a great degree job or particular background)? Are you looking for a guy who is similar to other couples whom you have seen on Instagram or Tik-Tok, are your favorite Netflix series attractive or are you putting other standards first? Are you making choices based on emotions or are you keeping what Allah SWT and our Prophet PBUH suggest the top of mind?Abu Hurairah related that the Prophet said: “Men choose women for four reasons: for their money, for their rank, for their beauty, and their religion, but marry one who is religious, and you will succeed” (Bukhari, Muslim). This, of course, also applies to women. However, it appears that religion is not always at the forefront of many people’s minds. It’s probably the last thing on the minds of many Muslim women when finding a Muslim husband. Being a doctor or a lawyer is more essential than piety for many Muslim women. And it doesn’t get much better for Muslim men. Many matrimonial adverts in Islamic newspapers, for example, show a critical desire for a bride who is “fair, thin, and lovely.” If we want healthy Muslim households, Deen must come first. Get Someone To Help Marriage is not something you are permitted to do on your own. It is your father’s right to be part of this process as your wali. This is not something we decide; yes, you may think you can find a guy on your own, or yes, you may not prefer your father’s way of going about things but this is Allah’s command for a reason. The one who thinks they know better than Allah SWT truly has truly fooled only themselves with their arrogance. May Allah protect us from ourselves If your father is not in your life you have options you can schedule a call with us and we can suggest the next steps: 15-minute call – FREE https://calendly.com/mindfulmuslimah/15-minute-skype-consultation-call Involving others does not imply giving up your right to say yes or no to a marriage proposal. It simply enhances the possibility of learning crucial information about a prospective spouse while adhering to Islamic modesty requirements (i.e., not meeting alone, see next point). Having your wali or guardian involved also helps you determine whether the person you’re interested in is good, honest, polite, and so much more. Your Wali often examines references, inquires about the individual’s character and conduct, and generally watches out for your best interests. Because you are looking for a Muslim husband in marriage and want someone conversant with the Islamic manner of doing things, this individual should be a trustworthy Muslim. Just figuring this out yourself is not reliable. Money women fall into this trap and suffer the results. Remember that your wali is your biggest ally and help (other than Allah SWT) in finding the right Muslim husband or wife. They have known you your entire life and have your best interests at heart. Again, if you are struggling to talk to them, we are here and can suggest some helpful tips. Here is the best way to schedule a call with me:  FREE https://calendly.com/mindfulmuslimah/15-minute-skype-consultation-call On the other hand, parents must be open and sensitive to what their children are seeking while never losing sight of the aspect of choice. In the end, their son or daughter will make the final decision. They must never become overly forceful or aggressive, whether the pressure is being given to their son or daughter or the person s/he is interested in. You have a right to choose and may never be forced into a marriage you do not agree to  In this digital age, there is always the opportunity to reach out to an imam or scholar about your questions about your particular situations. since “the unknown” is what keeps us anxious or holds us back, ask questions and put your mind at ease. If you’re looking for more clarity and confidence around the entire process (what to look for in a guy where to find him, how to spot red flags, what questions to ask, how the process works step-by-step) we have in entirely free class where we teach this to woman that you can access here Make sure your family inquiries about him  This is when your “third party” comes into play. They will not just be able to serve as a reference for you. They can also investigate connections on a potential match. A word on honesty and references: the individuals you question may know something unflattering about your potential spouse. Remind them that revealing this knowledge is not considered backbiting from an Islamic standpoint. In reality, complete information about a person, both good and bad, should be provided when it comes to marriage. In this regard, the advice of one of the Prophet’s companions, Umar Ibn al-Khattab, might be helpful: A man came to Umar ibn al-Khattab and spoke in praise of another. Umar asked him: “Are you his nearest neighbor such that you know his

Halal” Dating ? What Does Islam Say About It? What are the rules to have a “halal relationship”? Islam was sent for the whole of humanity and thus addressed all matters under all situations at any time in considerable detail Many Muslims want to get to know their potential spouse and curious about boundaries, dating has become a culture with more profound meaning and ideas in society. In most cultures, dating involves an intimate relationship such as holding hands, kissing, touching, sex, etc.Islam taught us that the “dating” styles above do not apply to Muslims. These dating styles above are about unlawful sexual intercourse in Islam and could be a marriage without parents’ blessing. In the Quran surah, Al Isra verse 32 mentions avoiding that behavior. “And do not approach adultery; (adultery) is really a heinous act and a bad way.” (QS 17:32) So while touching or being alone with the opposite sex is strictly forbidden, many Muslims may be surprised at how much IS allowed. While there is no such thing in “dating” when finding expose in Islam, as this is a western and has western connotations, there are definitely realistic and successful ways to get to know a potential spouse. What is allowed and important to explore?  We teach this in EVEN GREATER DETAIL HERE. 1. One of the most important things to know is that desires matter (as in psychological emotional and physical). A Muslim must want to marry the potential brother and is allowed to determine if she is attracted to him as that is important 2. A Muslimah can ask any appropriate question she would like in order to determine if they are compatible. what we typically find is that sisters unfortunately don’t as either the RIGHT QUESTIONS OR ENOUGH QUESTIONS. That is why we give away the top 15 questions to ask a spouse in our free marriage class.(you can get access to the 15 questions and free class here). 3. Can meet with him as many times as she needs in order to determine if a potential guy is right for her (as long as her Wali is present). We suggest multiple meetings, to get to know the family and exposing herself to real marital scenarios of meeting (even negative ones can be beneficial) in order to determine true family dynamics. 4. Every Muslimah has right and ability to set terms that she feels comfortable with within her contract. Mentioning non-negotiables related to work, school, and living are very important to clarify early on. 5. She can set her own mahr and one may have a right to it (not even her parents) except for her. Here are some points you need to consider before you consider taking a step towards marriage. 1. Good Commitment An exemplary commitment comes from the young man who wants to find his Muslim wife. They both have an outstanding obligation that their dating always keeps on Islamic rules. For example, while they go on a date, someone other than them should accompany their date. In the Quran surah, Al Maidah verse 5 mentions that Muslims should keep maintaining their honor until marriage time. “… And (it is permissible for you to marry) women who maintain the honor of women who believe and women who maintain the honor of those who are given the book before you, if you pay their dowry to marry her, not with the intention of adultery and not to make domestic women…” (QS 5:5) 2. Avoid a Secret Relationship Even though your dating is halal dating, it does not mean you are allowed to keep it secret. It not only will harm you but also does not apply in Islamic dating rule. That is why, you need to tell your parents, friends, or family members that you’re dating someone in a halal way. In the Quran surah Al Baqarah verse 235 mentions that: “And there is no sin for you to propose those women with innuendo or you hide (your desire) in your heart. God knows that you will mention them. But don’t make an agreement (to get married) with them in secret, except to say good words. And do not you set a marriage contract, before the end of his birthday? Know that God knows what is in your heart, so fear Him. And know that Allah is Forgiving, Most Gracious.” (QS 2:235)  3. Keep Focused It is easy to get swept  up  emotionally in a guy, keeping logical at all times is key. One of the biggest mistakes Muslimah make is feeling for a guy in missing on straight-up ignoring red flags If you want to learn how to spot them then join our free class here. 4. Maintain Your Genital The point of halal dating is to avoid adultery. Islam taught us that adultery is forbidden. That is why every Muslim needs to keep maintain their genital among the people except their spouse as the importance of virginity in Islam. In the Quran surah, Al Ma’arij verses 29-30 mentions that: “and those who care for their genitals, except for their wives or slaves they have, they are indeed not blameworthy.” (QS 70: 29-30) 5.Put Your Trust in Allah Only For some people, halal dating may not be their thing and feel awkward to look at. But, instead of worrying about what people taught in your relationship, keeping doing a good deed is more important to do. Besides, Allah loves those who keep their way in an Islamic way and put their trust in Allah only. May Allah bless you to get some ways on how to get husband love in Islam. For them who believed, in the Quran surah Ar-Rum verse 21 mentions that: “And among His signs (greatness) is that He created pairs for you of your own kind so that you can use peaceful tents, and He makes among you gratitude and love. Really, in that, there really are signs (the greatness of God) for people who think.” (QS 30:21)   For

Join the Personal Mentorship Program It takes only 3 EASY STEPS to your best Ramadan Yet The Ramadan Recharge Class is for you if you are ANY of these: You’ve made Ramadan goals in the past, but they’ve never worked out You are new to Islam and have no one to support or guide you on how to spend Ramadan in best way possible. You’ve tried to have a productive Ramadan or be close to Allah in the past, but it has only ended in disappointment. The Ramadan Recharge Experience is designed for Muslims with ANY level of faith that want to transform themselves and their life this Ramadan. Join the Personal Mentorship Program A portion of the proceeds will go to help feed orphans & family without shelter in Sudan Mentorship Breakdown Join the Personal Mentorship Program Here’s how it all breaks down… The Ramadan Recharge Experience Master Experience is a month-long LIVE experience full of motivation, support and inspiration that will help you to achieve your goals and stay connected with other sisters just like you. It was designed with the modern Muslim in mind. It’s made for all women, as it is flexible enough to use at any age and for any lifestyle. You get our proven pathway & tools for success PLUS weekly sessions to help you use them. For many of us, what is holding us back isn’t our desire to be better, it’s the lack of relevant tools to do it. Not only do we provide those tools, goal setting and scheduling all month long in detail, but we also give you the LIVE support you need to ACTUALLY reach your goals in a realistic way. Plus, part of the proceeds go to charity that will reward you all Ramadan. Step 1 Formulating the Master Plan From the minute you begin the Mentorship Program you will be met with guidance on where to put your energy and attention in Ramadan in order to reach your goals. You will then be handed a “Master Plan” that will be catered to your lifestyle, needs and desired results. You will be given a way to assess your current state of ibadah, how to formulate realistic goals, and a clear and detailed template and plan on how to finally follow through on them and revise them to ensure success. Our appraoch is centered on making high impact strides through small but concentrated efforts. It has helped tens of thousands of women get to places they never dreamed of reaching. Step 2 Follow Through & Tweaking Strategy It’s incredibly disappointing to spend the days when you can fast strong and spiritually connected and then have a sudden stop where major forms of worship are not possible during menstruation. Many women see this as a negative time, but we don’t. We see it as the blessing it has always been and have multiple ways for you to keep the same focus, intention and momentum whether you currently able to fast and pray or not. Step 3 Support, Support and Support This Mentorship Program was created long before the Covid-19 virus came into play. Yet, it couldn’t have come at a better time. So many Muslims all over the world never expected to spend Ramadan completely cut off from the rest of their ummah. The Ramadan Recharge Experience was designed to keep you connected to other sisters in Islam. It provides constant opportunity for you to grow and thrive in an online community that is right there growing with you. Mindful Muslimah will hold LIVE sessions with other experts weekly and there will be a private group on our Thrive platform available 24-hours a day to share your victories and struggles with and to get inspired. A part of the proceeds will go to Sadaqah Jariyah that not only benefits ourselves & others in this life, but also benefits us and our loved ones in the next. Bonuses Breakdown Here’s how it all breaks down… Signing on to this Mentorship Program doesn’t just mean you get the Program. It means you get also get access to some of the most relevant and comprehensive resources available to the Muslim public. . For decades, countless women have been reaching out about scenarios that they felt that they needed help with. . We heard them and have created these additional tools to support all women in all areas of life that could be relevant to their Ramadan experience. These can’t be found anywhere else and are all entirely FREE for you. Bonus 1 Ultimate Health & Weight-loss Tips for Ramadan Approaching Ramadan with a healthy heart and focus is a must. Far too often Muslims end up overeating at a time of spiritual restraint. Our guide will not only provide you with reliable information that will help you make more informed choices, but there are also some of our favorite recipes that we know you’ll enjoy as much as we do! Bonus 2 Menstruating in Ramadan: What Muslim Women Can do to Stay Spiritually Motivated Throughout Ramadan It’s incredibly disappointing to spend the days when you can fast strong and spiritually connected and then have a sudden stop where major forms of worship are not possible during menstruation. Many women see this as a negative time, but we don’t. We see it as the blessing it has always been and have multiple ways for you to keep the same focus, intention and momentum whether you currently able to fast and pray or not. Bonus 3 The Ultimate Guide to Staying Motivated Throughout Ramadan We all want to make the most of Ramadan, but let’s be honest…life is distracting. If it isn’t our phone it’s our relationships, our emotions or possibly that we have been disconnected from Allah in the way that we shouldn’t for so long. We don’t mean it, but sometimes we don’t know how to stop it. This guide will provide you with a way to approach the setbacks in your daily life and worship

Facebook WhatsApp Twitter LinkedIn Email Print Oh, the power of a great morning. It’s a serious game changer! I intend to give you all something that I desperately wish someone gave me twenty years ago when I had my first child. This is my best kept morning secret to all the mamas out there who just do not have enough time in their day or are drowning in stress and responsibility. Struggling with Time Management Managing time is something I struggled with years a while back.  I was always complaining I didn’t have enough time to do this and that. I always thought there was no possible way and that I could never get enough done or enough rest.  Then, I attended a class in my local mosque where I learned a better way my life and my time. It truly changed my life. No, it wasn’t some crazy time management course, it was a peek into how Islam views time and excuses. Some women are really struggling to break bad habits or make sweeping changes in their life. They might be telling themselves, “I just can’t do it. This is who I am, and I can’t change that”.  Take me for example, I used to be a night person. I swore and swore that I could never be anything else. Then, I learned that the messenger, Rahsool SAWS, did not like this attitude from people. He actually became upset from it. He taught us to change we actually only need two things:   Sincere intention and dua We can find proof in the Quran and way of Rahsool SAWS. The Quran says: ‘And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided. As soon as the thought of engaging in a bad habit hits your mind, seek refuge from Shaytaan with Allah’ (Qur’an, 2:186) Sahih Muslim (2655) says: “Verily, the hearts of all the sons of Adam are between the two fingers out of the fingers of the Compassionate Lord as one heart. He turns that to any (direction) He likes. Then Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said: 0 Allah, the Turner of the hearts, turn our hearts to Thine obedience.” Why make the change? What is the purpose of life? Ibadah (worshiping Allah SWA) It is the primary purpose that we are alive. If we can’t manage what we do within each day, we definitely can’t get ibadah right. Allah SWA says: “And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me.”  [Qur’an: Chapter 51, Verse 56] We will be asked what we did with our time. Ibn Mas’ud  narrated that the Prophet  said: “The feet of the son of Adam shall not move from before his Lord on the Day of Judgement, until he is asked about five things: about his life and what he did with it, about his youth and what he wore it out in, about his wealth and how he earned it and spent it upon, and what he did with what he knew.“ [Jami at-Tirmidhi] Miracle Mornings Change Lives I wouldn’t share my miracle morning routine with such enthusiasm if I didn’t feel it would entirely change your life and your family’s life. But what is a “miracle morning” and when do they happen exactly? Miracle mornings started for me, when I built y morning routine and choice of time to do it, around an Islamic principle that there is barakah in the time in the last 3rd of the night or the time right after Fair. Allah answers our du’a best in this time. Al Bukhari and Muslim say: “Our Lord descends every night, during the last third of it, to the skies of this world and asks, ‘Who is making du’a to Me, so that I can respond to him? Who is asking Me, so that I can give to him? Who is asking for My forgiveness, so that I can forgive him?”  “The most burdensome prayers for the hypocrites are the Isha and Fajr prayers. If they knew what there is in them, they would come even if they had to crawl.” (Muslim 651). Al Tirmidhi says: ‘Amr ibn ‘Abash reported that the Prophet, peace, and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “The closest any worshipper is to His Lord is during the last part of the night, so if you can be amongst those who remember Allah at that time then do so.”  Blind Faith? I know we learn these things, but is it actually true??? What? Question Islam? Questions Allah?  It’s not that. Let’s just say that in reality, we tend to not really become firm believers in something, until we have experienced the benefit of something before our own eyes. That’s when we become real believers. That’s what I did. I got up and tried so I could see it for myself. Let’s just say the results made me a die-hard believer. It changed my life, it’s that simple.  It even did it in more ways than one. I also found that if anything in life becomes great stress or a burden, then this time window of time is the space for seeking solutions After that, in moments of high stress and strain, I didn’t kill myself looking for help anywhere but with Allah first in this time. Benefits of the Miracle Morning Routine This routine has: Given me a positive mood and reduced my stress immensely. Shortened any task I have to do by half. Allowed me to be a more responsive wife, mother, daughter, worker, and friend. What do I do during my Miracle Morning Routine? I’m a bit of a health nut. I’ve been doing many of the things that I will mention below for years. I mean WAY before this new WAVE of plant-based mayhem (which I also like by the way as it is good for our health). My routine goes